Man & Woman Understanding Each Other
How many of you men out there know exactly when and what to buy your significant other? Do you just go buy them something or does your significant other have to tell you? Neither one is wrong. How many of you women out there know what your husband wants? Do you take the initiative or do they have to ask? Again neither one is wrong. What it really comes down to is knowing your significant other and that requires listening and communicating. That goes for men and women alike.
One thing we as men and women have to understand is that we all don't have the same love language. They also change from time to time. Most of the time where women are concerned in order to make us feel the most loved is to surprise us with a clean house, take us out on a date that the guy has completely planned out himself, and to get us gifts every so often (whatever they might be) (mine are flowers,) and to sit down with us every so often and just listen and hold us. For a guy it is most of the time different. In my marriage the way my husband feels most loved is to come home to a clean house, have time that he can be buy himself, and lastly sex. Women don't be afraid to dress up for your men from time to time not in your Sunday best but in your bedroom best. Put the kids to bed early, take a shower, and get all dolled up for your husband and surprise him. Men love it when the women take the initiative to want sex and they don't have to ask for it all the time.
So how in the world do we as couples get to that place? Two things Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior and communication. Everything else will take care of itself. For me personally if you don't have a relationship with Jesus Christ you don't know yourself and you diffidently don't know the opposite sex. Communication takes skill. If you grew up in a home where your parents fought all the time, you don't know how to communicate and will have to learn this as an adult (which stinks because this is a key thing you should have learned as a child.) Once you learn and figure it out, you are on the road for an incredible ride.
Caution areas: #1 Women you must understand that a lot of the time your husband or boyfriend may not always know when and what to get you. Be patient with him because he is not a girl (thank goodness.) Sometimes you will have to either ask them or tell them when you want him to buy you something. In my marriage I know this already so when I want some flowers I just say to my husband "baby I sure would like some flowers." Make sure to be kind when you say it, and in a few days my husband walks through the door with the flowers. It may not be a surprise but the fact that he listened to me and knew that it meant a lot to me says alot. Women when you understand this, it will stop a lot of the bitterness in you and find a whole new love for your man.
#2 This one is for women as well (sorry.) Don't expect your husband to know what you are thinking. It will always lead to an argument that we as women start. If you want your husband to help you with the dishes, if you want sometime alone without the kids, if you want sex, tell your man. Don't wait for him to figure it out, because 9 times out of 10 he won't. Then your left waiting till he figures out something that he never will, you continue to get mad, and then a fight starts, or you walk out the door, your man is left standing there wondering what the crap just happened. We as women have to understand that men don't think like we do. We as women know how to multitask very well, and men don't. My husband always says women's minds are like a computer with 15 windows opened at a time and men's minds are like a computer running from a land line that takes forever to load up and can usually only open 1 window at a time. Women once you figure this out you again will have a life change, your marriage will be a lot healthier, and most of your fights will be avoided.
#3 This is for you guys. Guys since women can multitask so well that also means there minds can wonder off very fast. So if you are going to be late at work, if you are going to go do something without your woman and are going to be gone for a while, you need to give her the common courtesy and let her know that you will be late. I'm just gonna say it: if you don't call or let her know where you are, we as women are gonna expect the worst either a car wreck, another woman, crazy stuff and if you go along time without calling expect your momma and your friends to get a call, expect your woman to go looking for ya, and expect a lot of silence followed by a long talk. For us women most of the time when our men do something like that, automatically we think we did something, we wonder if our man doesn't love us, we think our man doesn't respect us. So men if you will do this simple thing, it will change your relationship with your woman and a lot less fights will be avoided.
#4 For both men and women: When you are in a relationship remember your woman is not your momma and your man is not your daddy. Men if your momma had supper on the table promptly at 5:30, men if your momma was a pain in the butt and hated life and took it out on you, don't expect your woman to be the same way. Your woman may not know how to cook at all or your woman could be the sweetest and most loving person on the planet. Women same goes for you, if your daddy beat you, if your daddy brought home flowers every night of the week for your mom and gave you piggy back rides, don't expect your man to be the same way. Your man could be the most polite and loving person on the planet, he could be some one who just doesn't get it and needs help with figuring things out.
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