Ladies Love Your Man.

 One thing I have always been thankful for are the men in my life. Some have come and gone and come back again, some have been punks, some have been sweet, some have been my protectors, 2 of them are my brothers, 1 is my dad, 2 are my sons, some are friends for life no matter the time, distance, or stuff that happens in between, 1 is my amazing husband, and the list goes on. There have been several times in my life that I have been hurt by men, but many more times that I have been loved, respected, protected, prayed for, and cared for by them. You see I grew up with 2 brothers and 4 of 5 of my cousins are guys. I didn't have many friends in my life that were girls and I'm still like that today. Most of my friends growing up were my brother's friends. I felt like the 3rd wheel most of the time because a lot of the times I was the only girl but I didn't care, I liked being the only girl. 

So why am I telling you this? I have several reasons why but the biggest reason is this;  LADIES we need to be careful how we treat the men in our lives because they can get beat down, sad, lonely, scared, and heart broken just as easily as we can. The only difference is guys for the most part are just really good at hiding it and not talking about it. One of the perks about being raised up with a bunch of guys is I got a first hand look of what makes a guy happy, how a guy acts when their excited, how they act when their around their guy friends, how they act when a pretty girl walks in the room, when their heartbroken, scared, when they feel like they have lost it all, when they are protecting the ones they love, when they have been lied to, lost a loved one, and when a girl has treated them like trash.

In today's society  we here so much of how men should treat, love, protect, and respect the women in their lives and how they should treat them like princesses; and while I am 100% on board with that, because I want to be treated like a princess myself, what about the love and respect we women need to be giving and showing to our men? Why do we always talk about the man protecting, respecting, and loving their women, but you never hear it the other way around. We women can protect, love, and respect our men just as much as our men can love, protect, and respect us, it just looks different. Ladies if your man has done something super sweet, let him know, tell him. Guys love it when they feel appreciated and have been able to accomplish something. Ladies if you want your man to get you flowers or get you a gift, tell him, he most of the time doesn't know that you want them. Ladies if you want your man to help you around the house, tell him, again he probably doesn't know that you want his help. We women are very good at sending mixed signals. Ladies on those nights that your man has to work late, don't be afraid or think its stupid to put your kids to bed early and doll yourself up and be waiting for him when he gets home. I don't need to say anything else about this LOL! Ladies thank your man for all the hard work he does. You may not know it, but he carries a burden we as women don't understand. Ladies when you and your man get in a argument, fight, whatever, and your man ticks you off, put your big girl panties on and go and talk to him. If he hurt your feelings, let him know, talk it out, don't seat their being all silent and slamming around all the kitchen doors and dishes you can find. Chances are he didn't realize he hurt your feelings, but you'll never know if you don't talk to him about it. Ladies your man is not your dad. Your dad may have hurt you and or treated you badly but that doesn’t mean your man will. Lastly, ladies don't gossip about your man. No one else needs to be involved in your relationship except God and a counselor if yawl need one. Nothing makes me madder than sitting in a group of women and listening to them talk crap about their men knowing good and well they haven't talked to their man about the problem. When you gossip about what goes on between you and your man all your gonna get is a big mess. You're gonna end up farther away from your man than when you first started your little gossip session, alot of other women now think your man is trash or stupid or whatever you decided to say about him, and lastly once the situation has resolved between you and your man and you think everything is now fine and dandy but you forgot that their's still all those women you talked to about your man that didn't forget what you said about him and while you now think very highly of your man, those women you talked to still don't. 

So ladies in closing don't be afraid to love and cherish your man. God put men in our lives for a reason. Pray for your man daily. Tell him you love him. Show him you love him. Let him know what a good job he is doing in anything and give your man a hug, kiss, and slap on the butt right in front of your kids as he leaves for work for the day. Your kids will think it gross, but by doing that, you will begin to teach your sons and daughters about what a great Godly relationship is supposed to look like. Now ladies let me be very clear, if you got a man that's hitting you or abusing you in some way, that's a different story seek help, and men same for you, you got a woman that's hitting or abusing you in some way, seek help, don't stay silent about that mess. Now then ladies lets get out there and love on our men.

1 Corinthians 13:4-8    Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails

Luke 6:31    Treat others the way you want to be treated.

Ephesians 5:22-29     Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, His body, of which He is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her to make her holy and blameless. In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves His wife loves Himself. After all no one ever hated his own body but he feeds and cares for it just as Christ does the church.

(note: when a man loves his wife the way God loves His church, it makes submitting to your man, very easy.)