Forgive

 I was asked the other day by a friend of mine if the person who had hurt me remembers what they had done to me or if they had ever apologized for what they had done. I told my friend that I don’t know if they remember what they did to me and no I don’t expect an apology from them. My friend then said “You don’t?” and I said “No I don’t.” and here’s why.

When you forgive someone, you are setting yourself free from them. You are setting them free from you and you are giving the entire situation to Jesus to handle and to deal with. When you forgive someone you don’t forget what they have done to you but you can get to a place where what was done to you does not affect you negatively anymore. 

One of the most amazing things I have seen due to me forgiving my father for what he has done in my life is to see the relationship that he and I have now. It is still not exactly where I would like for it to be but the things that he did to me do not affect me the same way anymore. Instead those things that were done to me I now use to help others who are struggling in the same situation to be able to get through them and to be able to forgive the same way I have done. 


When you decide not to forgive you are holding yourself hostage from an incredible life God has for you. Does it suck what happened to me by the hands of my father? Absolutely, but if I had never gone through them, I would not and could not be the woman I am today. I live my life to love others. I live my life to see the best and to try to bring out the best in others. I live my life to show others that there is something far better than what they think or believe. I live my life to look after, lead, and protect those that can’t.

It is quite amazing what God can do when you give Him a chance. I never thought I would be able or want to forgive my father. I never thought that the way I thought about myself and my life would ever change. I never thought that all those dreams I always wanted to do in my life could ever be accomplished simply by letting God be in control of my forgiveness. The way God chose to handle my forgiveness with my father far succeeds anything that I could have ever possibly imagined. God is faithful. God is just. God is God.

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